Choose to Love Your Spouse Daily

Love Is a Choice, Not Just a Feeling

Feelings fluctuate, but love rooted in Christ is sacrificial and lasts (1 Corinthians 13). Choose love daily. Easier said than done, right? And really easy when we are not agreeing... but if we take a step back and pray before we blow- let God speak…. A miracle can happen. We can keep our mouth shut and have no regrets about words we can't take back!

“Love is patient and kind... it bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.” 1 Corinthians 13:4, 7–8

In a world that often defines love by emotions and attraction, God calls us to something deeper- a love that is chosen, rooted not in how we feel, but in who He is.

True love in marriage isn’t about constant butterflies. It’s about choosing love, even on the hard days- especially on the hard days... life is hard at times no matter who you are and no matter how blessed you think you walk. The good news is Jesus makes us stable.

Feelings Fade- Commitment Remains

“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” Jeremiah 17:9 (ESV)

Our emotions are real, but they are not always reliable. Those days filled with stress, misunderstanding and even hurt- that’s when love becomes a decision. Give a compliment or make a favorite meal- even if it feels like you will explode. Small gestures can relieve great tension.

Love Like Christ

“By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us...” 1 John 3:16
“Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot sweep it away.” Song of Songs 8:7

Jesus didn’t wait to feel like loving us- He chose to love us through the sacrifice of dying on a cross... so anything you do is very minimal if you stop to ponder it. Marriage reflects that same calling. Love means laying down pride, selfishness, and comfort for the good of the other person. Look at marriage as serving eachother- it looks a whole lot better.

Choose Love Daily

“Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.” 1 Peter 4:8

Choosing love is a daily decision, to be kind when you're irritated or to listen when you're tired. It means saying, “I will love you today, even when it’s not easy.” That kind of love transforms marriages and reflects Christ to the world. Sometimes remind yourself that someone else would love to have what you do. You are living someone's dream.

Love Is More Than Romance

“Let all that you do be done in love." 1 Corinthians 16:14 (ESV)

Real love isn't always glamorous. Choose to forgive quick, pray instead of complain, and treat your spouse the way you want to be treated. Romance is wonderful, but lasting love is built on consistent acts. My husband always shovels the snow because I hate the cold. I clean the bathrooms in return. So romantic! But hey- it works and we both appreciate it!

Reflection & Challenge

• What are some ways you can choose love even when your feelings don’t match?

• Are there areas where you’ve been waiting on emotion rather than walking in obedience?

• How might your marriage change if you treated love as a daily act of worship to God?

Prayer

“Lord, help me to love with Your kind of love. Teach me to choose love even when it’s hard, and to reflect Your heart in the way I treat my spouse. Let our love be rooted in You and built on more than emotion. In Jesus name, Amen.”